Yes! Confidentiality in therapy is protected by law.

However, there are some very important exceptions. If you ever tell a therapist that you plan to kill yourself, or someone else, we are legally required to report it. We also have to report any suspicion of child or elder abuse (even if it’s someone else you’re talking about).

This topic is an important one to talk to your therapist about, and therapists are happy to answer questions about it.

Every person is different. At the start, we’ll work together to outline what your goals are individually, and as a family. When we’ve met those goals, we’ll know we’re done! Some folks come up with fresh goals during therapy, which can change the timeline. But the main thing is, really the amount of timing is up to you.

There are some guidelines for how long to expect. Usually the first few months are devoted to getting to know one another and establishing trust. Then the middle phase is where we work on what you came for. Saying goodby can be as quick as one session, but many folks like to say goodbye over several sessions—all up to you!

If your kid is up for doing one session, it can be helpful them to meet a few therapists to see if any of them seem like a person your kid could talk to. If they still feel that way after an initial meeting with one or more therapists, it’s time to trust them. Making them attend if they don’t want to won’t produce the safety required for therapy to work.

If there is a cycle of highs and lows, it can be helpful to initiate the conversation when times are good, and establish connection with a therapist during that time so that when things get hard again your kid has someone they’ve already been talking to. Stranger danger in stressful times is a tough ask.